Acceptance, Choices, Freedom!

By Lori Grant

SPEEDING, who knew that getting pulled over by the police two weeks ago would be a great lesson and teaching moment for me as a Transformational Energy Coach for an outpatient program for people with mental health issues?

It wasn’t too important a lesson to be reminded of just this. Are you ready to live your life? I mean YOUR life? Not your children’s lives, not your partner’s life, not your parent’s life, I mean YOUR life? That is what getting pulled over did for me, and for all my clients.

The first step is acceptance. Accept where you are and who you are in this moment. Because this moment is all we have. Even accepting that life is not what you hoped it would be, you may be struggling with an illness, family members problems, or just in general, work isn’t great, finances are tight, whatever it is, accept it. Don’t judge it, don’t beat yourself up about it, just ACCEPT it. As New England Patriots Coach Bill Belichick always says, “it is what it is”.

We always have choices even when it doesn’t seem that way. Everything we do, every move we make is a choice. Paying our rent, not paying the mortgage, going to work, buying a book, everything is a choice. We may feel that we HAVE to do certain things, but ultimately we do not, it is always a choice. And by no small measure, every choice we make has consequences. If you don’t pay rent, you may be evicted, if you skip work, you may be fired, there are always consequences for our choices.


When we accept where we are, even if we don’t like it, we can make choices to change it or to go along with it. Either way when we accept our life, we make choices based on acceptance and we become FREE. Free from blame, free from Victimhood, free to live our life as we choose to live it. We stop blaming others, we stop blaming ourselves and we take responsibility for our choices.

It opens our hearts and minds to the infinite possibilities that are available to us. We stop looking for others to create our life and realize that we are the creators of our dreams.

I would like to thank the police officer who pulled me over to teach me this lesson again. I fully accepted that I was speeding and he had every right to pull me over. I knew I made a choice to speed and that it was my responsibility for what ever happened because of it. I am quite convinced because I fully accepted my responsibility for speeding, he just asked me to slow down and let me go. No ticket, no written warning, just slow down and be safe. I have heeded his words and am driving slower.


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